Last Updated on October 26, 2025 by Michelle
Be Your Future Self Now is the book that got me started on my BYORM journey. It’s a powerful realisation that I would like everyone to consider. It’s a self explanatory concept that once you hear it, you would live differently.
Identity Shift That Changes Everything
After 40, most women (and men) reach a point of reflection – Is this all there is? You’ve built a career, raised a family, achieved stability – yet something inside whispers for more meaning.
That whisper is your future self calling.
A Stanford study by psychologist Dr. Hai Hershfield found that people who visualised their future selves vividly – face, environment, emotions – made smarter financial and lifestyle choices. Why? Because their brains stopped seeing their “future self” as a stranger.
When you deepen that connection, your decisions shift – from comfort-driven to growth-aligned.
Define You: Who Is The Woman You’re Becoming?
Your future self isn’t a fantasy. She’s a version of you who’s lived through the discipline you resist today – and built confidence through small wins.
Start by defining her in 4 key areas:
Mind – What do you believe about yourself and your worth?
Body – How do you care for your energy, health and beauty?
Money – How do you earn, invest and spend with clarity?
Meaning – What kind of work or relationships light you up?
Read more here for more elaboration on my personal example.
Future Self Visualisation Practice
Record a 90-second voice note describing a “day in her life” in 2027. Speak as if it’s already happening. Listen to it every Saturday – your brain will start to align current choices with that vision.
Act as Her, Not Toward Her
This is the identify shift that unlocks growth: Don’t chase your future self. Embody her now.
Before every decision, ask: What would my future self do in this moment?
Examples could include: She doesn’t rush, she prioritizes. She doesn’t overspend, she invests in freedom. She doesn’t chase approvals, she decides on what to approve.
Research from Duke University shows 40-45% of daily actions are habitual. Your habits are votes for your identify. Each small “vote” builds her – one morning routine, one investment decision, one boundary at a time. Read more about the value of atomic habits here.
Build Systems That Protect Her Energy
Motivation fades. Structure sustains.
Time-block mornings for your highest value task before the world intrudes.
Simplify – unsubscribe, declutter, automate. Every unnecessary decision drains focus.
Reflect weekly – What did I do this week my future self will thank me for?
When your systems honour yourself, you no longer rely on willpower, you operate from identity.
Surround Yourself with Evidence of Her
Environment is stronger than intention. Audit your influences – physical, digital and social.
Who embodies the kind of grace, freedom and focus you want?
Does your home or workspace inspire the woman you’re becoming?
What voices fill your feed – distractions or elevation?
Create a Pinterest vision board called “My Future Self 2027”. Pin visuals of lifestyle, health, wardrobe, workspace and energy that reflect her. Then align one daily habit that brings you closer to that vision.
Growth Feels Like Discomfort – Learn to Welcome It
The woman you’re becoming lives on the other side of your current comfort. Growth rarely feels like progress; it often feels like friction. But that friction is evidence of evolution.
The next time discomfort appears, tell yourself – This is the feeling of becoming her.
That simple reframe turns resistance into reinforcement.
Final Reflection: Meet Her Halfway
Your future self isn’t waiting for a perfect moment – she’s being built through your micro-choices.
Ask yourself – “If I acted 10% more like my future self today, what would I do differently?”
Every day you honour that answer, you collapse the gap between who you are and who you’re meant to be.
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