Do you want to be in Success In Progress? If you are as excited as me to be starting out in the success journey, on your way to becoming your own role model or your future self, you would love to read the below life changing yet easy steps to get you started in Success In Progress journey.
Many successful people say this is the phase they loved the most. It is better than being in the successful state.
“Success is a process, not an event”- Gary Halbert
After learning about the 5 steps, I hope that you will be inspired to take your own first step to get into your success in progress state. That is exactly why I started out with this blog. To inspire at least one of you to get in this journey.
I decided to become my own role model in 2019, that was about 5 years ago.
Reason was simple, I looked around and could not find anyone that was ˜20 years older and was in posession of what I looked for in a role model, i.e. someone that was truly happy with her life, happy in relationships that mattered to her, intellectual, financially independent, attractive with a healthy workout regime, glowy and clear skin, with a smiley disposition, living happily working on things that she loves.
It was then, that I realised that it makes sense for no such person to exist given the specific aspects of what I considered to be important and aspirational were unique to myself.
That was when I decided to be my own role model. I took the below 5 easy steps, and so can you.
1. Take out your notepad on your phone or physical notebook.
I did in my iphone.
2. List out what’s most important to your future self. What kind of person you want to be in 20 years.
For me it was 9 aspects or goals – financial independence, intellectual mind, glowy and healthy skin, toned and healthy body, work that I love, close relationship with my parents, my husband, my 2 kids and closest few friends
3. Put a 1 liner action against each goal.
This is the step to list out the actions to take today in order to become your role model in 5, 10 or 20 years. For example, intellectual mind – read 1 book a month, toned and healthy body – exercise 4x a week.
4. Rate yourself where you are currently on each of the aspects.
e.g. intellectual mind – 20%, toned and healthy body- 40% etc
5. Get to action
To be fair, in 2019 itself, I didn’t take much action. But it was the first step for me to be aware of what I wanted myself to be. It was the first step of my success in progress journey.
In 2020, I did a similar exercise from scratch and realised that my goals stayed consistent. In terms of actions I’d started taking, there were some but not in all aspects. I still wasn’t reading 1 book/month but had started exercises watching youtube, as Covid hit and had the motivation to do exercises indoors. That was about it.
In 2021 and 2022, I honestly do not remember too much. I tried out interior styling, by volunteering at an interior styling firm during the weekends. But realised this wasn’t my ikigai…I quickly learned that this wasn’t what I could do as my second career even though I loved interior styling.
2023…this was the year I really took some serious actions. I started 20 good habits including reading 1.25books/month! This was a significant milestone for me personally as this goal of reading 1 book/month has been there since I started working and I never managed to do it till 2023. I’ll get into the details of the 20 habits in the next post. The point is, I had started executing. Why was I able to take so many actions, big or small? It was because 2023 was one of the most difficult years of my life…so it’s true. Humans grow when they’re hit with a huge stress or challenge or shock. We seem to need big triggers for us to do something. One of the first books I read in 2023 that got me hooked to reading was a book called Be Your Future Self by Benjamin Harding.
Success in progress is the exact process I want to share on my blog. Not the outcome.
I want to share my thought process, specific steps taken (and continue to take) as I go on my journey to becoming THE version of myself that I want to be. Why? Because I am sure there are many others like me, in the 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s who are as motivated and inspired to age well and be successful (in their own definition of success), i.e. Be their Own Role Model. That to me, is what happiness means. It’s not a goal, it’s a process of reflecting on my own little/big accomplishments and the desire to continue to be inspired to grow in the aspects I care about.
I clearly have a long way to go since this is my first blog with 0 reads/followers. A friend told me to take a screen capture of this entry that shows 0 reads/followers and I think that’s a great idea!
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